The Better Soul

If beauty is skin deep, this is the section to dig deep into our souls. This segment talks of inner beauty, values, and humanity.

Rituals for women at the time of Death, Gender Discrimination
Gender Roles
Superstitions and Rituals
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Death: Mourning Rituals for Women

Leaving aside a few exceptions, resistance towards women participating in last rites of their loved ones is not new (check here, here, here, and here). A justification is thus needed on why women’s participation in the funeral traditions of their family members is frowned upon or is confined? Was the murder of daughter Geeta Verma for performing the last rites of her mother justified?

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Mothers and Daughters
Gender Roles
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WANTED: SON (necessary in an ‘equality of women’ society)

How does any family gets completed? Are childless couples or couples who have just one child incomplete in any manner? Is any first girl child destined to be somewhat retard or lacking in intellect? Maybe she can only talk half sentences or make half-sense of the things around her or may be draw a half circle. And that is why a second child is needed…sorry…a second child who is a MALE is needed because only a son can then complete their family.

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What is Karva Chauth-A tradition, a ritual or a superstition? Does Karva Chauth needs to be evolved in India? Why do women keep this fast?
Superstitions and Rituals
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What is Karva Chauth- A tradition, a ritual or a superstition?

As I drove through the roads of South-Ex market, I could see the inviting hoardings, advertisements, and offers on clothes, gifts, accessories, make-up, jewelry, and even restaurants to celebrate the occasion of Karva Chauth. It is indeed a huge market, I thought. But why? This year will be my fourth Karva Chauth, but surprisingly my first that is well thought of and researched. I took a U-turn and went straight to my laptop. I wanted to know all about Karva Chauth….why it started? Is it a tradition, a ritual, or a superstition?

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Motherhood
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First-Time MOMS: The not so rosy feeling!

Rest of the time we were either feeding or entertaining or running after our kids. However, while talking to these fellow moms, I realized, mostly we see experiences of mothers who paint all rosy picture of motherhood but there are some ‘not so good’ feelings also attached with motherhood that usually remain hidden deep inside.

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Jaat protests and the Jaat Bahu
Relationships
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Jaat Reservations and the Jaat Bahu

I am a Punjabi girl, married into a jaat family. The few days of Jaat protests saw my family getting quiet and staring at me confusingly whenever I walked into the TV room, where the media highlighted the ‘not so good’ behaviour of jaats. Obviously there were other castes of people as well with them committing the crimes but Jaats had to face the brunt of all those actions as they were on the face of it. So my family dig deep in me, inquisitively, silently. They wanted to know on which side I was?…..

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